7 Tips for Loving Where You Live

Whether you’re new to the neighborhood or a bona fide local, connecting with your community can bring tons of joy! Here's how to get started.

1. Take a heads-or-tails walk.

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Flip a quarter at every intersection or crosswalk. Heads you go right, tails you go left. Get a little lost, then try to find your way back home (no GPS allowed). According to a San Diego State University study, kids who walk or bike a lot can navigate their neighborhoods better than kids always trapped in a car. A good mental map of local geography makes you feel like an insider where you live.

2. Help the helpers.

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Firefighters, police officers, rescue squad members, librarians. So many people keep your city running, usually with semi-invisible work. Taking notice of them can be a first step in bolstering your family’s civic engagement. Deliver a balloon bouquet or a plate of brownies to your favorite unsung city workers. If you happen to get invited on a behind-the-scenes tour, you’ll adore them even more.

3. Go on a city scavenger hunt.

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Spend an afternoon downtown snapping pics of things that represent each letter of the alphabet: A is for architectural treasure, B is for bench, C is for candy store. Sometimes we ignore our cities (until we have something to complain about; curse you, traffic!). This is an exercise in slowing down and paying attention to the details.

4. Taste all the food.

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Being a regular at a local eatery bolsters your sense of place; how can you not feel like you belong here when the bagel shop guy knows your order? Compile a list of every nearby burger joint (or donut shop or Chinese restaurant—pick your family’s craving). Review them all as a family, rank them, then return to your #1 favorite again and again.

5. Celebrate Friday.

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In the Woodlea-Melrose neighborhood of Phoenix, a once-a-month hangout called Front Yard Friday is an institution. A rotating cast of neighbors chat for hours on front patios while the kids run crazy. “It’s this built-in playdate,” says resident and mom Patti Karnes. To start a Front Yard Friday where you live, put out the word via your neighborhood Facebook page, stock a cooler, and invest in sidewalk chalk and bubbles. Even easier: an impromptu block party you initiate by shifting your pizza night to your front yard.

6. Set up a stand.

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One of the best ways to feel connected to your community is to build social capital, which kids do by making friends. Lots of them. Of all ages. A fast-pass method: Start a lemonade stand at the local park and give away cups for free. It’s an irresistible instant icebreaker that practically begs for friendly conversation.

7. Write a “Dear Town” letter.

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If your city were the object of your affection, what would your love letter say? Maybe “Dear Houston, your children’s museum is awesome,” or “Dear Denver, I love you in the snow.” Put your thoughts on stationery, slip your love letter in an envelope, then leave it somewhere around town for someone else to find and enjoy.